I don’t know about you, but for me, Valentine’s Day isn’t exactly my favorite holiday. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I have been single every Valentine’s Day since Sophomore year of high school, or maybe it’s because of the unreal and huge expectations that everyone has on this day. Either way in my humble opinion, Valentine’s Day is overrated. But I am not here to discuss my feelings on this holiday, instead, I want to talk about you.
I mean when you think about it, usually February 14th is a day where couples get dressed up and go out to fancy restaurants (or stay home). Single people either go out with friends to the bar/clubs trying to get as many Tinder matches before the night is over or stay at home crying over a tub of ice cream while watching “The Notebook ” for the umpteenth time. But what things can we do for ourselves? Because, after all this day is about love, so what things can we do to show ourselves some love? Showing yourself love and care is just as important as showing your friends, family members, or significant other. So, without further ado, I Introduce to you the first post in my self-love series, 14 Things to do for yourself this Valentine’s Day.
1. Buy yourself some flowers
Yes, I know how terribly cliché that sounds, but it is always nice when you receive flowers. I know that when I go to the grocery store and see peonies for sale I buy about 10 bouquets because they are my favorite flower and seeing them around the house just makes me feel so happy.
2. Read your favorite book
We all have that one book that we enjoy reading over and over, why not sit down, get cozy, and enjoy that book again.
Working out is great because your body releases endorphins which boost happiness levels. So go for a quick jog, dance around, do some bicycling, get moving.
4. Watch your Favorite movie
I know I poked fun at it earlier, but if you want to stay home and watch your favorite romcoms or any genre of movies because it’ll make you happy, then do it! ( This includes tv shows as well, I will most likely be binge-watching Friends on Netflix this coming Valentine’s Day).
5. Get Shit Done
If you are one-hundred percent anti-Valentine’s Day, then what better day than to do something opposite of what everyone else is doing. Make a short list of things that you’ve been meaning to get done for a while and knock them out. Bonus, you will be saving yourself future stress over them.
6. At Home Spa
If you ask my friends, they will tell you that I love doing at home spas/ pamper sessions. Usually, that means me sitting in my bathrobe with a charcoal face mask on while sipping wine out of a straw. I like to make the time to take care of my skin and relax because it’s one of the best ways to show self-love. So, draw yourself a bath, throw in a Lush bath bomb, do a face mask, hair mask, body scrub, paint your nails and just relax.
7. Cook yourself a meal
Cooking yourself a warm hearty meal is one great way to show yourself some love. Write out your grocery list, grab some wine if you’re up for it and cook yourself your favorite meal.
8. Write yourself a love letter
I know this one sounds kind of weird, or even slightly cliché. But you don’t have to be super romantic or cheesy in your letter. Write down what qualities you admire about yourself, for example, I love how optimistic and energetic I am. Opposed to saying My eyes sparkle like the night sky and my hair is as golden as the sun — blah blah blah. You feel me? Of course, if you want to talk about your sparkling eyes, then by all means. But the goal of the letter is to give yourself positive affirmations. I know sometimes I look down on myself because I don’t feel good enough or pretty enough. A handwritten love letter is a good way to say “hey, I know I’m not perfect but I love myself anyway.”
9. Travel (by yourself)
Traveling by yourself, and traveling, in general, doesn’t have to mean purchasing a plane ticket and going to a far destination. You can travel to another part of town or even go check out that new coffee shop or bar that just opened up downtown that everyone is talking about. Just take the time to be with yourself and explore in a new area.
10. Do something creative
I like to think that I am a pretty creative person, I enjoy drawing, painting, photography, and more. I always find some inner peace when I sit down with some music and do something creative. Especially if I’ve had a bad day. Allowing myself to do something that is creative brings me joy.
11. Practice gratitude
I think practicing gratitude is a wonderful thing to do for yourself. Even if it is just writing down five things that you are grateful for. Learning to appreciate even the little things in life can bring happiness.
12. Take a social media break
I think that taking a social media cleanse can be very refreshing. Of course, you don’t have to just take a social media break, if possible, take a break from all technology even if it’s just for an hour. Go out for a walk, or meet a friend. I don’t think you’ll be missing much from social media anyway.
13. End a toxic relationship
This one is probably one of the more risqué things to do on the list. I know the last thing anybody wants is to be broken up with or break up with someone, especially on Valentine’s Day. But a toxic relationship (with a friend or partner) can be very grueling to us emotionally and mentally. It won’t be easy to break up with a friend or partner, but when you do, you can begin the healing process.
14. Clean out your closet
Pick a closet or room in your house and start clearing through it. separate items by “keep” and “donate”. Clearing out any unnecessary items or things that you no longer use can feel therapeutic and like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
So there you have it, 14 things that you can do for yourself this Valentine’s Day or any day. Even if you don’t do anything on this list, or everything on this list, just remember to take some time to love yourself.