Another birthday has come around, and I am very excited to be 21 now! It’s incredible to think about all of the experiences and memories I’ve created so far in my life. Not to mention the lessons I’ve leaned along the way. Here are 21 things that I’ve learned in 21 years, enjoy!
1. Love more, expect less: I’ve learned that having prior expectations for people can leave you feeling disappointed, and it’s best to just love more and expect less.
2. Overthinking is never a good thing: It’s not. Don’t do it. It just brings on more worry and anxiety and causes you stress.
3. Your body’s a temple: I know it sounds cliché, but when you put good in you get good out!
4. Travel is always a good idea: What I love about travel is that I have been able to learn so much about myself. I love exploring and discovering new things and having new adventures. Traveling allows me to do that.
5. Use a planner: I’m not sure how I would be able to get anything done without a planner. I write down everything that I need to do for the month and / or week to help me stay organized. This helps me feel more productive and ensures I get everything done.
6. Patience is key: There have been times where I’ve been impatient and impulsive, but I realize that being short tempered doesn’t help the situation that I am in.
7. Appreciate the good people around you: I’ve met a lot of people in my 21 years; some people have drifted away and others weren’t really good to keep as company. But I’ve learned to always appreciate the good people who make me laugh and feel good.
8.Less is more: I use to think that the more makeup, clothes or stuff I owned the happier I would be, because I would be able to impress people whose opinions didn’t really matter. What ended up happening was I became overwhelmed with the amount of things I was holding onto. Instead, I decided to get rid of the things that didn’t bring me joy or provided no value for me.
9. Do the things that make you happy: Seriously, do the things that make you happy! Even if you only have 20 minutes to an hour to do what makes you happy, do it! Life’s too short to not be doing what makes you happy.
10. Save: It’s really never too early to start saving money, for college, retirement, your dream home, emergency funds, anything. Even If it’s a small amount each month.
11. It’s ok to be single: Sadly, society likes to get on those people who are single. (maybe not so much in your early twenties.) People are always questioning when you’re going to get married, and have kids, etc. Even at my age, being surrounded by friends who are in serious relationships made me feel a bit left out or worried that I would never be in a relationship. But with the life i’m currently living, I don’t really want to be in a relationship unless it’s with someone who values the same things I do. It’s ok to be single, have fun and enjoy the perks it has to offer.
12. It’s ok not to have your shit together:Sometimes I get on myself for not having my ducks in a row or having accomplished the things I want to accomplish. But I am trying and I am working on it and that’s what really matters. As long as you’re working towards your goals!
13. Life is all about balance: There have been times where i’ve had bad day after bad day, thinking I would never be happy again and vice versa. I’ve learned that life will come with its fair share of good and bad days, but it will balance itself out
14. Love yourself first: I’m a very caring person and I like to help others, but sometimes I forget to show myself the same compassion. It is so important to love yourself, your flaws, and appreciate the amazing things about you. I’ve learned this only recently and It’s something I continue to work on.
15. Always say yes to trying new things: Had I said no to trying new things, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to venture out and gain so many amazing experiences. It’s about allowing myself to try new things, even if on occasion, I have a not so good experience.
16. Do more things by yourself: I learned this lesson later rather than sooner, I wish I could have been more fearless to go out by myself while living in New York. There were so many things that I wanted to do, but didn’t because I didn’t want to go alone or risk my safety. I’ve learned since then that If no one else wants to go, it’ll be just as fun by myself.
17. Wake up earlier: Now, to be clear I’m not waking up at 5 am every morning like I would like, but I found my mornings and my day to be so much nicer and easy going when I have time to enjoy a big breakfast, sit and sip my tea or do my makeup rather than rushing out the door with a piece of toast in my mouth.
18. Forgive more: This can be hard to do sometimes, especially when someone who you care about has hurt you. But to forgive that person or you allow yourself to let go of that pain and start to recover.
19. Don’t compare yourself to others: This is the worst possible thing you can do to yourself. I use to always compare my body to other girls and it would make me feel bad about myself and hate my body, instead of loving it like I should. That’s when the lesson of love yourself first was learned as well.
20. It’s okay to have a meltdown every now and then: Sometimes you just need a good cry. And it’s completely ok to do that, let out any anger, fear or sadness you feel.
21. Stray away from people who don’t share the same values as you: As someone who enjoys doing creative things, traveling and being active, I like to surround myself with people who also value those things. I’ve discovered that when I surround myself with people who have similar interest we’re able to better understand each other and encourage each other. I love that I can be completely inspired, motivated, and uplifted by them.
I hope this has been inspiring and helpful, I know I enjoyed writing it. Cheers to another year and to many more! I’m so excited to see what’s to come.